14 Black writers’ thoughts on love

Happy Singles Awareness Valentine’s Day!

As we all know, the 14th of February is the only day in the year when we are expected to show special love, attention and care to the people we love and those who are dear to us. Besides my loved ones, and in line with my decision to celebrate Black History Month on the blog, I would like to show some love to 14 (amazing) black writers who said or wrote inspiring things about love today.

You will also find below photos of one of my favorite black couples (read: the realest #RelationshipGoals couple of them all) captured by one of my favorite photographers – the one and only Pete Souza. Out of the kindness of my heart – for people who are not interested in watching the latest Fifty Shades movie especially – there is a list of 20 movies celebrating black love in the second part of the post. Happy reading, watching, and envying loving!

14 Black writers’ thoughts on love

“I found God in myself and I loved her. I loved her fiercely.” – Ntozake Shange

“How do you find self-love? You dig. You isolate and you ache from being lonely. You heal. You accept, you look in the mirror and see God.” – Malanda Jean-Claude

“Of course I am not worried about intimidating men. The type of man who will be intimidated by me is exactly the type of man I have no interest in.” ― Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

“Love recognizes no barriers. It jumps hurdles, leaps fences, penetrates walls to arrive at its destination full of hope.” – Maya Angelou

“Love is like the sea. It’s a moving thing, but still and all, it takes its shape from the shore it meets, and it’s different with every shore.” – Zora Neale Hurston

“Love does not begin and end the way we seem to think it does. Love is a battle, love is a war; love is a growing up.” ― James Baldwin

“Love is like the rain. It comes in a drizzle sometimes. Then it starts pouring and if you’re not careful it will drown you.” – Edwidge Danticat

“Love is mutually feeding each other, not one living on another like a ghoul.” – Bessie Head

“Love is not a gift. It is a diploma. A diploma conferring certain privileges: the privilege of expressing love and the privilege of receiving it.” – Toni Morrison

“Love is an action, never simply a feeling.” ― bell hooks

“The greatest lie ever told about love is that it sets you free.” ― Zadie Smith

“I’ve been hurt so bad and I still love so hard. I admire my heart for that.” – Alex Elle

“Kindness eases change. Love quiets fear.” – Octavia Butler

“Only those who truly love and who are truly strong can sustain their lives as a dream. You dwell in your own enchantment. Life throws stones at you, but your love and your dream change those stones into the flowers of discovery.” – Ben Okri

Photo credit: Meghan Holmes

20 movies celebrating black love

Claudine (1974)

She’s Gotta Have It (1986)

Poetic Justice (1993)

The Preacher’s Wife (1996)

Soul Food (1997)

Love Jones (1997)

How Stella Got Her Groove Back (1998)

The Best Man (1999) (Bonus: a sequel was released in 2013)

Love and Basketball (2000)

Disappearing Acts (2000)

Brown Sugar (2002)

The Fighting Temptations (2003)

Daddy’s Little Girls (2007)

Just Wright (2010)

Sparkle (2012)

Think Like A Man (2012) (Bonus: a sequel was released in 2014)

Half of a Yellow Sun (2013)

Beyond The Lights (2014)

Southside With You (2016)

Moonlight (2016)


Who or what else would you add to these lists?

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1 Comment

  1. 14 February 2018 / 4:33 pm

    I love this post! I am glad you are choosing to celebrate blackness on the blog. My favourite quote has got to be the one by Bessie Head. I have watched almost all of those films except for around 4 – the ones from 2012 onwards. Oooh, and the Obamas are really the realest relationship goals – they are dignified, fun, scandaless and genuine. Pure black love!


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